Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men
I receive a large number of emails from my fans asking for interracial dating advice for Asian men as well as the #1 question that gets asked is, “How should i know if she (usually a white girl, but not always) is interested in dating Asian men?”
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As the Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question simply because its been asked so often ad naseum. I’m finally going to put it to bed for your first and before despite my misgivings.
I had been recently reminded of the controversial topic (and I’ll cover the key reason why it’s so controversial extensively at the bottom) on one of my many flights training men in the art of attraction after i sat next to a really pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer kind of girl.
In our conversation, she made many of the verbal indicators of curiosity that I’ve heard before and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from the woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and for that reason to the likes of you and I).
This is admittedly a rarer type of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers and something in which I’ll go more into detail within my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men.
So here is a list of a few of the things these girls will consciously do to be able to let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (and while I use the term white female, the truth is other women from African American to Latin American, will also use the same flirting signals):
10 Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men
1. She “Knows” an Asian language:
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Maybe you’ve seen this type - they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or put on an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) even though they really only know how to order pho.
Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I suggest an awesome sexual bantering tip because each woman wants to be cultured. You, as a cosmopolitan man on the planet, are going to teach her a phrase in your language. Here’s an illustration for you Chinese speakers.
First, act very serious and say something like, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this useful in the far reaches during my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.”
Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I believe that?”
And you’ll say (within the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can manage) “You just said ‘I enjoy it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, use your phrases to compliment her.
Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I really like your laugh.’”
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And she’ll laugh again. Carry on but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded in the learning experience.
Girls who've had the pleasure of the situation tell me it’s unique and something they’ve never forgotten. Be sure to utilize it if you know your mother tongue!
2. She Has Asian Friends:
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Her companion is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived next door to a Vietanemse family. Even though they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they've some sort of Asian acceptance to create her seem more receptive. They’ll utilize the most random things as well; a really random story I’ve heard is the place one girl’s delivery room doctor was obviously a Japanese guy, so since she was “born to the arms of an Asian man” she should “die in the arms of an Asian man too.” The point is, they are trying to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was brought to the idea of dating Asian men with a Korean acquaintance]
3. She Loves (Mixed) Fighting styles: I’ve never benefitted from this personally but one of my clients is really a former North American martial arts champ and he’s currently a fairly famous action director and actor. He’s written if you ask me on several occasions concerning the sexy crazy groupies which follow him and the folks his circuit - a plentiful selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Many of the most beautiful Asian men groupies stick to the martial arts circuit, the fighting techinques circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! You've got a winner!
4. She Loves Asian Food: Whether it is sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she is an Asian food “connoisseur.” If this comes up, use visual imagery to color a picture in her mind that interests all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of your steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your personal Korean BBQ, as well as the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating as well as arousing topics. Why, you may well ask? Because speaking of food similar to this is sensual…just like sex. The best way to a man’s heart is via his stomach, right? It applies to beautiful women too.
5. She Knows A little more about Your Mother Country Than You Do: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her really wants to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy - do not take this as generalizing, she’s just trying to reach out to you. Play in to these fantasies when you can. Paint an image about going on a vacation together. Begin with romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up with sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking in conjunction sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around within the sand kissing. Use her need to your advantage.
6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover:
They express interest in anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and stuff like that). This group of women aren’t really my bag, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s as much as her. If she’s discussing how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s attempting to relate to you. The latter kind of woman desires to impress you along with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s seeking you to a point where you say something to the effect of “That is indeed amazing how much you understand!” Watch for that and indulge her
7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and films - this kind of girl is infatuated with all the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger plus more attractive, as this is a somewhat new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she might not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. As well as Chinese for that matter. I’m not saying it won’t happen, but I can’t ever think of a time I had been successful with this sort of girl despite my PUA mastery. I simply don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she just simply will not have anything only a BIG BANG boyfriend (put simply, a Korean or Japanese guy).
8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Whether it be your eyes, Asian hair, or complexion, she’s going to love them and allow you to know it at some point in the conversation. Take her on it when she does by putting your forearm approximately hers, or if you feel more comfortable or if the conversation goes well, take her hand to indicate the contrasting tones. Intangible such things as intelligence, family, work ethic, second language usually are not uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (in the event you tell a girl she looks sexy for the reason that dress, she’ll probably wear it again). Just as we were little boys, we all do melt under the praise of a beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments such as education or that knowledge of a second language, she’s attempting to help me learn.
9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies:
They’ll typically create a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. It is possible to bring this as well. “Just think…if you and get wed and we had a litter of the most beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they'd be?” It plays into her fantasy. Just like we men have sexual fantasies, ladies have “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push it of their minds to stay emotionally detached, but keep in mind that, by the end of this or any conversation you've got with a female considering you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping along with her.
10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: Here is the biggest, most obvious indicator a woman can give you that she’s into Asian men generally speaking and you in specific. Count on me, anytime a girl has ever explained she had an Asian boyfriend before, I'm able to pretty much romantically connect with her 99.9999% of that time period. So a white girl that way will say that she has dated an Asian man before. She will make this point as well as further - she will try to guess your ethnicity to show that she’s “learned in the means of Asian men” and can prove that “not everyone look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a guy of my ethnicity to produce her seem more desirable and receptive if you ask me. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s your responsibility to close because as signals go, it doesn’t get any bigger than this one.
With, saying, or doing one of the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically produce a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine a few of those traits as well as all of them together and, gentlemen, you simply might find yourself speaking with one woman who is madly in love with the Asian persuasion.
Remember fondly the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the lady better than you found her!
So just why WAIT UNTIL NOW To reply to THIS QUESTION?
I mentioned previously that I was always not wanting to answer this question. Yes, it seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give that says she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?”
Why haven’t I answered it so far? Unfortunately, the act of wondering means your More unlikely TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women.
It’s a paradox. The thing is, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve always been hesitant to answer because, on the holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men overall to actually know the answer to that question. In my opinion that the thousands of men that email me with this question are displaying what is known as “learned helplessness.”
Basically, the men to whom the reply to the question “How can I tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and so me)?” is important, are training themselves to simply make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, ahead of the man does. In other words, he wants a zero-risk, inside the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or your money back proposition.
Plus today’s modern world with modern women, the last thing dating is, is risk-free.
Meaning instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man prepared to take risks (who would then naturally attract these women whether they are white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to find the beautiful woman, he instead gets to be the Asian beta male who's only confident if it is instead the woman who takes the first risk. Instead of the correct way around which is the man’s role being dominant, forward, plus a leader.
I hope, however, I'm not really doing a disservice to Asian men by training to look, and ONLY look, for these specific female signals of attraction first before you make a move… Instead of making a move first then making her drawn to you which she then provides you with signals. That’s the right way.
Laugh the right path into her heart (after which her pants)!
As you can see, I am a very average looking man. I am a short 5 foot 5 inches and that i know I am not a good looking or handsome guy. Each woman I’ve dated is physically (if not socially) out of my league. I never get those kind of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You must never expect them because I certainly don’t and my success most abundant in beautiful women has been documented and faithfully captured through the media around the world.
Instead, begin using these signals and indicators of great interest to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming interested in you AFTER you’ve approached her and reached know her. You need to take these 10 Signals She’s Drawn to Asian Men as signs so that you can STAY when you’re already inside a conversation with her instead of viewing them as indicators that you should initially approach her.
Over time, what I’ve discovered with girls that specifically that they like Asian men are either in it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll love to be there but be cautious because you’ll get restricted quickly with a girl that chose you, not just a girl YOU chose, which is a gross difference.
And after answering this age old question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m planning to address the 13 Forms of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, you will find women who will use the above mentioned signals because she’s only drawn to your “Asianness”, but not for the reasons that you might think.
When you haven’t had the chance to get acquainted with yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later - all things considered, you’re here to learn grab, and quitting the game early isn’t fair to yourself also to the many women you have yet to meet.